Keeping My “I Love My Husband” Moments Quiet

I don’t want to be that married woman that has to post everything GREAT (because that seems like what most women do when in a relationship) that my husband does for me.

This choice serves two purposes: because my life and what goes on in my marriage should be private and transparency will come from ministering, but also being considerate of my singles out there. I know there are bitter women out there that will want to be married and what I have blast all the good my man does? Not everyone is happy for married or happy folks, some secretly wish it was them and not you. So don’t confuse the two. Also there is a big difference between being PRIVATE and being TRANSPARENT.

Many women today feel the need to brag about what their boyfriend or husband has done for them, but you forget to let us single folks/others know that life isn’t always about what great things that person is doing in your life. We know it exist and that’s when transparency (not airing out your dirty laundry) comes in but being REAL with people is what the people want.

I know as I’m building a brand, blogging, and having a presence on social media where I share different things to help and uplift others, but no one truly knows me base off of what I share, therefore this season that I am in now: not dating, single, preparing to get married one day, be a mother and the woman God wants me to be in the future we show that.

I don’t think and nor am I saying that being married or HAPPILY married shouldn’t be shown or shared with others but don’t get so caught up in saying “MY husband took me here, my husband did this, that, oh yea and this too” that you are SO consumed in showing the world your good side and happy days. At least bring a message with “what my husband did” that will help other married couples or those who desire to be married hope or an idea what to look for. Be mindful not to make your husband your idol.

Oh “I love my husband” movement

I will replace those times where I want to share “Oh I love my husband” moments with cards, letters, nice gestures things that are PRIVATE. I don’t need a platform to let you all know how much I love him and why. I NEED to tell you how God has healed my heart, accepted me every time after I messed up, how I love Jesus for dying on the cross for my sins daily, overcoming depression, how He is the center of my life, and my everything etc.

Again, this goes back to making someone an idol. Catch me…I’m not saying if you do this or when you do this you’re idolizing your significant other, but what I am saying is that it won’t be me who does this because I use my platform majority of the time to spread the gospel: testimonies, scriptures, share a word that The Holy Spirit has put in me. “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them” –Ephesians 2:10. Yes you will see what I’m up to with my family, friends, but my heart or motives won’t be based off of how great my husband is and what he has done for me today. I want to help heal and not assist in making others bitter because everything you see isn’t always what it is or the only thing going on, but people don’t want to share the bad side of things.

“It’s Instagram, it was made for us to share photos of whatever we choose” True, that’s how many people see it but I’m not like others, I was born to standout before I was even thought of, therefore I’m not going to do what everyone else is doing. I am a child of God. “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect” –Romans 12:2 This is not to say that everything we do should be holy (heavenly bound) but social media is a powerful TOOL, why not utilize it where the kingdom can benefit from it? That’s like saying because “There aren’t any Christians at my job, I don’t claim Him while I’m on the clock because I don’t want to standout, but when I get off you bet I’m all for The Lord”. No you don’t want to be held accountable for certain things.

Lastly, I want to see Jesus when I look at you (brother or sister). We are only on this earth for a certain amount of time and we are all assigned one thing that we have in common & that’s winning souls. Sis, how can I see that through your pictures, videos, and blog posts?

Our purpose is different from one another and we don’t necessarily have to do kingdom work in the church, but what is that I or another sister can get from you and your posts?

Just something to think about. I’m sure we’ve all fallen to this even those who say “I keep my life or relationships private” yea but you probably shared more about what he has done than what He (God) has done.

You can either say ouch or amen, and this isn’t a post to bash anyone, just something to check your motives and heart, why do you do what you do? I hold you accountable & you can do the same. Let’s lead and correct out of love…

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